When people find out I am living with Multiple Sclerosis, there is always a lull in the conversation. What do you say to that? People usually respond one of two ways: They either offer their condolences, or tell me, “I would have never guessed” and that is the double-edged sword of the situation. Because while I may appear normal on the outside, internally it is a whole different story.
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