Change is part of lifePublished 5:04pm Friday, December 28, 2012
Going home for the holidays is always a great time. I love spending time with my family. My time outside of them has been dedicated to seeing as many friends as I can and so far, it has been a great break.
But there is always a sort of depressing element to my trips home.
Change is a part of life. The very definition of a living organism is that it can respond to changes in its outside environment.
But not all change is welcomed. And there are remnants of these changes sprinkled about my hometown.
I noticed it first when I first drove into town. I found myself instinctively looking down a familiar road, a road my granny once lived on. Granny has been dead for two years. The exterior of the house had barely changed. A new car was in the driveway, an unfamiliar truck.
As I continued down the road, I got to the intersection of 411 and Sutton Bridge Road. Nestled in the now run-down strip mall was another skeleton. My parents’ restaurant Pas’ghettis has been closed for years – a hometown casualty of when the bottom fell out on the economy. The sign still hangs above the building. The red vinyl letters that spell out “Italian restaurant” are cracking and beginning to peel off, though most are still clinging to the backlit plastic banner.
I see these places a lot when I come home. But the truck, single cab, beige with a red stripe, jarred my usual thought process.
That is granny’s house, but that isn’t her car, I thought.
But something about it was more reassuring than dispiriting.
No, it wasn’t her house – but whether I like it or not it has been repurposed. And the old restaurant? Perhaps another family will venture out and open the doors again. Or the whole thing could be bulldozed tomorrow – there is no way to tell.
Change has taken its toll and will continue to do so.
I started planning out this – my last column of 2012 – and I planned on writing another denouncement of New Year’s resolutions similar to a column I wrote a few years ago. But in the reminiscing about town, I do think this year will mark a return to resolution making.
There are a lot of changes I would like to make to my own life. Some of these I will accomplish during 2013. Others I won’t.
But one thing is for certain – there are a whole lot of other changes that 2013 will bring that neither a resolution nor strong will can affect.
I think is realistic, not pessimistic, to say I won’t enjoy all those changes.
But in 2013, I am going to try my best to just keep driving forward.
Nelson is the news editor for The Outlook.